How To Win Ex Back in 5 Steps
Relationships are sensitive bonds that need to built up and continuously worked on to keep them healthy and give them time to flourish. So when a break up happens, it can be stressful, nerve wracking and frustrating for both of you.
If you lately went through a breakup, there is a good chance you want to win ex back. But how do you do that, without being seen as clingy and desperate? To get you on the right track to win ex back here are 5 steps that I learned. They will help you come across as the stronger person – the key to winning back your ex.
STEP 1 – Be strong.
No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.
STEP 2 – Minimize communication.
This may sound completely absurd to you when all you want to do is talk to your ex and try to rekindle the love, but you need to give them space before you try to win ex back. So give yourself time alone, where you cut off all communication with your ex. This will give both of you time to come to grips with the breakup, think clearly again, and maybe see how much the relationship meant to you both.
STEP 3 – Be versatile:
After a breakup you most probably feel cheated and hurt, but that does not give you the right to play silly mind games with your ex, just to try get the upper hand. If you previously lived together, do not be childish and abrasive by giving them a date to move out by or to clear out their belongings.
Remember, they are hurting just as much as you are, so be flexible, listen and sympathize with what they have to say. Your ex will be impressed when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to fix the communication channels that were broken when the separation happened.
STEP 4 – Get the heck out!
During these tough times, the worst thing you could do is be alone. So get hold of your friends and get out of the house. Develop some new social circles and have some fun.
This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.
STEP 5 – Be who you are:
There was a reason you and your ex had a relationship in the first place, so remember to be yourself and show your ex why he or she fell for you to begin with. This renewed confidence and expression of yourself may even rub off on your ex as well.